I am Black or African-American

It is a myth that sexual assault only happens to a certain type of woman. Just like many other women who have been assaulted, you may feel anxious, depressed, angry, or guilty. All of these feelings are normal. But due to different cultural beliefs and expectations, you may have some feelings or thoughts that are unique to you as a Black woman.

You may have been taught as a child that African-American women are strong and should bear any burden alone without complaining. You may feel that you shouldn't tell anyone about your sexual assault. "Never take your business in the streets." The truth is that you have been violated and you are in pain. It's OK to talk to someone about what has happened and to get help.

But you may feel that you can't trust anyone or that the legal system and mental health profession, as part of White society, will not support or understand you. You may also be afraid to press charges, especially if your assailant was Black. You may not want to "turn against your own kind," nor want to perpetuate any negative stereotypes about Black men or women.

It may be difficult for you to seek help if you feel that it would be at the expense of African-American men or your community. However, pursuing help for yourself does not detract from your loyalty. Remember, you can be victimized in three ways: by the assault itself; the way in which the assault is dealt with (i.e., who is told, their reactions); and by your own self-perception. You can empower yourself and feel less helpless by finding someone to talk to who is trustworthy and who understands your unique cultural perspective. If you are a UVA student, you may also want to contact the Office of African American Affairs for further support and assistance.

You may also find this fact sheet from the Virginia Sexual and Domestic Violence Action Alliance helpful.